The Sisters dairy farmer wants people to know that support is available. He is reminding people of the importance of asking one simple question: R U OK? And he says there is nothing wrong with answering with: “No”. 

“Your friends won’t think any less of you. They’re going to love you just the same. They’re not going to shy away. If anything, they will be more protective and understanding,” he says.

Mr Kenna shares his story ahead of R U OK? Day on Thursday and a walk in Warrnambool on Saturday. Lifeline’s Out of the Shadows event will remember people who have taken their own lives and commits to helping others.  

Suicide prevention charity R U OK? reminds people – especially this week – to ask the question. Their advice is to take what people say seriously, don’t interrupt or rush the conversation; don’t judge the person’s experiences or reactions, but acknowledge that things seem tough; and encourage them to explain their feelings. 

At a time when new research shows people spend an average of 46 hours of their weekly downtime looking at televisions and digital devices – compared to six hours engaging with family and friends – it’s time to take it back to basics. Take a walk, grab a meal or simply call on a friend and reconnect. Shift the balance and invest time into people – not the things – that matter most.

As Mr Kenna reminds us, physical and mental health go hand in hand and are vital to maintaining a happy and satisfying life. 

The south-west feels the impact of suicide and mental health every day. The Standard in April shared the story of Warrnambool’s Blake family, who were rocked to the core when their son and brother Seamus took his own life weeks after he turned 20. His football club, Merrivale, launched a support campaign to assist players and acted to prevent further tragedy. 

Seamus, himself, left his family and friends with a harrowing message within a farewell note: “If you’ve got any issues like I had, please don’t leave it too late.”

When is the last time you asked a friend, R U OK?